What I’ve learnt over the years of growing up is that for every person who likes you/adores you there are about 10 others who have something negative to say about you. That’s just life. I like to think of it as keeping myself grounded and keeping my ego in check. Sometimes the negative stings like a bee but true strength comes from finding the sweet honey through the temporary pain.
My advice is to find your center; find your authentic you. I don’t know about you, but being fake is exhausting to me. It takes so much energy to put on that fake smile, hold that fake enthusiasm, and to say that fake compliment. At the end of the day, if that person does like you, they don’t like you, they like the fake you. To me, being real feels like freedom, I know I’m loved for who I am and I feel I have so much more energy and love to give to those who appreciate me.
1. Figure out who you are
In order to be authentic, it’s important to distinguish who you are in this present moment, who you were and who you want to be.
2. Push through the pressure
The pressure from others (family, friends, society) can be overwhelming. They all want you to grow into a piece of them. You are not them; you are you!
3. Love the uniqueness in others
When you can love and appreciate others for their individuality it also shows others that they can love and appreciate you for who you are. When you are open to the universe, the universe is open to you.